1. 15 Jul



    While everyone was praising Nas for his ‘Daughters’ track, I was underwhelmed and perplexed at how his lyrics could be interpreted as “positive.” I see no positive message in reinforcing a culture that elects to put “extra” (read: locked up in a tower Rapunzel style) parenting on their daughters but not the same for their sons. If we spent more time raising our sons with same ‘caution’ we do our daughters, we’d have nothing to fear. THIS convo would not be happening. Granted, women face more danger, I don’t care who agrees with that or not. We do. Danger inflicted on us by men. Yes. So wouldn’t it make more sense to…oh, raise better men? Just an idea…In the same way your daughter can get pregnant, your son can get someone pregnant. In the same way your daughter can be violated, your son can be too. Or worse, he can be the one perpetuating that violence. Someone has to be “those predators” right? They are someone’s son. It could be your son. But no one wants to preach “don’t rape” we’re in the habit of putting the sole responsibility on the ones we were originally in the business of protecting. “Don’t GET raped! DON’T GET RAPED!” Boys are allowed to embody the patriarchal heteronormative privileges of doing whatever the hell they want to do, when they want to do and how they want to do. With little concern to whom is on the receiving end of those potentially dangerous activities. If we continue police state parenting for our daughters and ‘boys will be boys’ laissez-faire for our sons we WILL CONTINUE TO LOSE.
    — 

    -Dash, ‘We Need to Start Raising Our Sons‘  (via venusgenus)

    I’ve been sitting on my rage for this song for quite some time. I agree with all of the above but i gotta add 

    Are we even raising our daughters?

    Especially after Nas’ defense of Gwenyth Paltrow, which honestly is bad timing. Because let’s be really upfront.

    This song is how he missed 17 years of his daughter growing as a person outside of his image and manhood , only to be caught by surprise when she grew. 

    ” I thought I dropped enough jewels on her” /took her out of private school 

    Notice how not a single one of those verses lyrics etc is about how the child herself is seen as a human , as a developing person.

    She’s the object of boys he has to defend from, a reflection of his legacy but her own being…

    Not in this track.

    I don’t want to ever armchair parent outside of private conversation, I don’t think this track is reflective of Nas’ parenting strategy entire but 

    He needs 17 years to reflect on someone he loves needing care , that he only sees for a black little girl 

    HIS black little girl as danger defense, isolation, moral purity.

    It takes him less than a week to see GP as a real N***a who he can see on an intellectual, defendable level for her ACTIONS

    damn the rest.

    What about us as people, as autonomous outside of how we reflect and interact with men. Where our actions have origins and reasons and reflect ourselves.

    Nas obviously LOVES this little girl, of this I have no doubt. Nas is also trying to do right by her but what he thinks is right comes from somewhere.

    And I can’t stop the contrast in my head of who gets to be somebody and who gets to be a reflection or an object.

    (via blackamazon)

    PREECH BA

    (via so-treu)

    (via ms-sugar)

     
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